On Wednesday June 5th at around 11:48 pm, 30 year old Danair Harden accidentally shot his son Amir Harden in his head after he was trying to shoot the boy’s mom and the boy tried to wrestle the gun away from him. Amir died in the hospital on Sunday June 9th after fighting for his life for days.
According to his mom Cherish Edwards, Danair had been abusing her for years, but in the days preceding this tragic incident he had grabbed her by her neck choking her and she had reported it to the Burnsville Police Department in Minnesota and they arrested him. She had no idea he was released on bail. She told them she was scared for her life especially because he had a permit to carry a gun and often had one with him. Yet he was released from jail just hours before this tragic event.
She said she told her son to go to the neighbors but he would not leave. He said, “mommy, I’m not leaving you here”. She, was trying to protect her son, and her son was trying to protect her. (if this does not bring tears to your eyes I don’t know what will)
She said Amir’s four other siblings were there and witnessed their brother getting shot. She said she is filled with guilt and hurting terribly because, “That bullet was for me and not my child.”
She told HuffPost, “It’s just unimaginable, an 8-year-old trying to wrestle the gun out of a grown man’s hand. It’s unbearable pain. And now we’re finally free of him, but my child paid the ultimate sacrifice. My children, all of them, I feel so bad for them. They are traumatized. It’s going to take years, if it ever goes away.”
She said she’ll continue to remember her son as “a bright light, a goofball and a gifted athlete.” “He was a very happy boy”, she said, “very courageous. He was a leader, a protector of his siblings. He was my biggest cheerleader, every day I go to work he would say, ‘Have a good day mommy. I love you.’”
Amir’s elementary school principal Logan Schultz told HuffPost, “Amir was known for his infectious smile and kind heart. Our heartfelt condolences go out to Amir’s family, friends, and the entire Echo Park Elementary School community as we mourn this tragic loss together.”
Her message for other women experiencing domestic violence, “It doesn’t matter if he hit you 10 years ago, he’s got to leave. Next time that could be your life or your child’s life. I think a lot of women think it will never be them. I know a lot of women try to see the good, especially when you have children with that person. Or, you think you’re alone or you don’t have help, and you can’t leave, you feel stuck. I didn’t want my family to be the example of what can happen. But unfortunately, we are.”
She has set up a GoFundMe asking for $10000 for moving and bills and have exceeded that, but Im sure she will be needing way more than $10000 so please donate if you can ➡️ GoFundMe by Amir’s mom Cherish Edwards.
The Law & Domestic Violence
The court had been warned just hours earlier that the father Danair Harden posed ‘an immediate threat’ to the family but he was freed on $4,000 bail.
Why on God’s green earth was this man even out of jail? And was she even notified he is making bail? Do these law peeps really understand domestic violence? Most of those men are in jail seething and can barely wait to be released just to go and enact revenge for getting them locked up. They did not even take away his guns. They just told him to stay away from her. When does that ever work?
And this is why I advocate for women to protect themselves themselves by getting themselves a gun, gun training, then using the system only to secure a restraining order, and learn about the laws of their respective State as to how they can lawfully eliminate their abuser if he breaks the restraining order. And keeping their gun near them at all times – without letting anyone know she has a gun, and brandishing it only when she is going to use it. Never let the abusive partner or ex partner know you have a gun until you are sure you are going to use it on him. Don’t pull it and tell him to leave! He’s going to come back more prepared for you now that he knows you have a gun, and he will not be afraid to use his gun on you – without hesitation!
If staying alive is the goal, ladies you cannot be afraid to take them out and save yourself. Don’t be all emotional, thinking about the love you once shared. He will not be thinking about any of that when he approaches you.
8 year old Amir Harden died being a hero, saving his mom from his dad, but he shouldn’t have to.
Men, please look at this and remember AMIR HARDEN. A child’s bond with their mother is very deep! Yes, the sperm/child came from you, but spend 9 whole months inside their mother eating what she eats, feeling what she feels, bonding. So while you hate their mom – for whatever reason, and wants them gone from this earth, their child loves them unconditionally and wants them to remain alive on this earth – not only to protect them but to be the valued source of nurturing they have been.
And after you kill your child’s mother, what parents will your child have left? You will go to prison, that is, if you do not kill yourself, but your child will be left parentless. In today’s cold callous world, would you want your young child to be left to other people’s mercy?
Think about it!
Men you have to learn to resolve issues – especially family issues, without reaching for a gun. Guns in your home should be there for the protection of your family from intruders, not to be used on your family members.
When this man realized what he did, he shot himself in his head – trying to kill himself, but now he’s in the hospital in critical condition. That should have been what he did in the first place, shoot his damn self and leave the child and his mommy alone.
Do you agree with me?
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